Embracing the Eccentric Within

Alright, what I'd like to know is where that strip of toilet paper came from - the one I pulled out through the neck of my sweater this morning. And how does toilet paper get into a sweater neck in the first place? 

Yes, this is me a couple of Halloweens
ago in my "cereal killer" costume.

These are questions from way up there in the treetops of philosophical thought like why are grapes bad for dogs and why did John Lennon ever let Yoko Ono sing? 

At least I noticed right away, not like the day I went to work with my pants on backwards. But it makes me wonder what kinds of things have been poking out of my clothes, sticking to my shoe and hitchhiking around between my teeth that I wasn't aware of - and that no one mentioned to me.

You know what, though? I think I'll just embrace the screw-up within. This way I won't be mortified if someone does point something out because my response: "And that would surprise you because?" will put the entire issue to rest while shielding me from embarrassment. 

But I'll replace the word "screw-up" with "eccentric" and bamboozle myself into buying in to a phony-baloney aura of respectability. 

The more I think about it, the better I like the idea. Imagine the shortcuts I can take through my morning routine. No more wondering if my mismatched socks are similar enough to go unnoticed. No more dabbing nail polish on the runs in my stockings. No more brushing over that cowlick in the back of my head that looks like a bald spot if I don't cover it up.

No more any of the things I do just because they're the proper thing, the expected thing, the everybody-else-does-it thing, the normal thing.

Philosopher Albert Camus said: "Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal." I am one of those people and frankly, I'm sick of it.

I've already had a glimpse of the eccentric life and it wasn't bad. For Halloween two years ago, I was a cereal killer and that's me in the picture up there. But the jury's still out as to whether my costume, a cereal box "hat" with a knife rammed through it, marked me as eccentric or just cheap.

History books are peppered throughout with people who marched to a different beat and failed to give a rip what others thought about it. 

Benjamin Franklin advocated "air baths," and stood before an open window naked for a half-hour every day. And let's not forget Oscar Wilde who is said to have walked around in public with a lobster. I just read that the offbeat, off key and off-kilter singer and recording artist, Mrs. Miller was initially unaware that she was the butt of jokes. Once she caught on, she decided to roll with it, releasing a number of albums and enjoying a good deal of celebrity due to her wretched singing. 

Maybe people won't think I'm an eccentric; maybe they'll bypass eccentric altogether and go straight to genius! Maybe they'll think I'm the next Oscar Wilde, Albert Camus  or . . . Mrs. Miller.

As I said: Maybe they'll think I'm an eccentric!  

Michael Jackson's Toilet

At first I thought it was because I'm getting old, but then it occurred to me that I've always been like this. I misunderstand things. By things I mean lyrics, people in noisy settings and British actors on BBC sitcoms.

As to the latter, I'm convinced the Brits produce sitcoms specially for the U.S. market, in which every fifth word is replaced by a jabberwocky-inspired nonsense word and then they laugh at us for laughing at it and pretending we understood. Charming though they may be, I think the Brits never forgave us for high-tailing it out of there before the Revolution. If we could have understood you, we might have stayed! Lousy, stinkin' Brits.

But it's lyrics that trip me up the most. When singing along with my kids to bebop, hip hop and in some cases, pig slop playing on the radio, I hardly ever get things right. There's a song which alludes to Michael Jackson's Thriller which for the longest time I sang as Michael Jackson's toilet - and wondered why.

There's also a song in which the singer ponders why her lover is her clarity, which for months on end I sang as therapy - and didn't wonder why because therapy makes just as much bloody sense as clarity. Lousy, stinkin' singers.

And it wasn't until recently, when I read it online, that I fully understood a Jimi Hendrix lyric from Purple Haze, "Excuse me while I kiss the sky." From the first time I ever heard it until I read the actual lyric, I thought it said, "Excuse me while I kiss this guy."

Then there's the Elton John standard, Daniel. One line in the chorus actually says, "Daniel you're a star in the face of the sky." Until a few years ago I thought it was, "Daniel you're a star in a faithful disguise." Even though I knew it didn't make any sense, I was too lazy to Google it, so I don't mind owning that one. But I think anyone could have been confused by the others. 

As I say all the time, the nut doesn't fall far from the tree. When my daughter was about three and sang You Are My Sunshine, she would invariably warble, "You make me happy when skies are grape." Maybe there's a genetic component.

And really, it's a little like the old saws (that's old sayings for those of you under a hundred) that baffled me for years because I was misunderstanding them. Take for instance: He who laughs last, laughs best. I always thought it was he who laughs last, laughs last. Well of course he does; it's obvious that he does. 

Lousy, stinkin' old saw sayers.

Baby Boom

I nearly met my end twice by the time I was four, each time as the result of an explosion. 

Me no doubt asking a firefighter
to help me blow this pop-stand
before it blows again. 

I don't recall either event, but according to my mother, both blasts were real doozies. 

The first happened in our basement before I was two years-old. The furnace blew, the explosion so powerful, the kitchen floor heaved up and the cast iron door on the unit's face flew off.

Firefighters traipsed through the house where I sat in a rocking chair calmly watching. 

"Why didn't anyone carry me out?" I recently asked my mother.

"Well, we looked at you and you seemed fine," she said.

A couple of years later I had a second brush with a blast. My father was a building engineer. Every day, I went with my mother to pick him up from work. My routine: open the boiler room door, scamper over an iron catwalk, bear right onto another catwalk, then run into the tiny office where my father waited.

One day I was sick and my mother's timing was off, getting her to my father's job later than usual. At precisely the time I would have been running up that first catwalk, a boiler exploded. Had I been there, I'd have been killed, with 40 pounds of ragamuffin meat hurled to the cold, hard floor. 

My mother was uninjured due in part to the shift in her arrival time. My father survived because he was far enough away in his office. 

Had I been closer to the basement that one day, or calumphing my fanny up that catwalk on the other, I wouldn't be here now and my children wouldn't exist. 

My ex-husband would never have met me, making him and his mother the only ones to gain anything.

Similar subject matter has been explored before, of course. Consult your television viewing guide during the holidays and you'll see some channel somewhere is airing It's a Wonderful Life, the story of downhearted George Bailey (Jimmy Stewart) shown by a fledgling angel how barren others' lives would be had he not been around.

We see that theme of altered existence in the story, A Christmas Carol, too, when Ebineezer Scrooge is shown the bleak fate set to befall that sickeningly chipper Cratchett clan should he not change his ways.  

But what about the good things that never happen to us because we zigged instead of zagged, or worse, the good things that never happen to us because others zigged? We are all the sum total, not only of our own decisions, but of others'. 

What windfalls, career boosts and loves have I missed due to my decisions? Last-second impulses to turn right and not left, polite rejections of would-be suitors, or not sending a resume to that hot little start-up are choices. Those choices, once escorts to alternate futures, stand as vague and shadowed sentries, barring gates they would otherwise open. 

And when things happen . . . or don't happen . . . is it fate, good luck, bad luck, a higher power or merely the simple order of things?

Before I decide that it's all a mess of randomness, I will give this notion more thought. 

I just won't expect any conclusions.