Thanksgiving Quirky

I'm writing this on the Sunday after Thanksgiving 2016 and reflecting on how the day went.

My flower child daughter 
this Thanksgiving.
Image copyright, Teece Aronin

The kids and I were with family and just like previous years, I was told not to bring anything but ourselves because "we know how busy you are." 

It's true, I am busy. But how can I be busier than the others who show up lugging bowls big enough to host nationally-televised football games and baking dishes you could fill with water for small children to bathe in - oh and small children; some people were were lugging those too. 

It might be that I get off so easy because historically not the best things in life have come from that dark, shadowy, cobwebby room in my house I call the kitchen. 

But I'm happy anyway because my family honestly does wave me away lovingly and because they do genuinely care about how much I have to do these days. 

But you'd think they'd at least let me bring the cider provided I buy it somewhere and not try to make it from scratch by pulverizing my own apples which with my track record would turn out to be wormy and rotten.  

So what I do instead of cooking is to bring a nice hostess gift. This year I scored a deal on a huge holiday wreath and that was my contribution to the day.  

Also with us this year were a man who might have been alone otherwise and several other people who didn't start out as "family" but are now that they've been with us at these gatherings for years. 

This Thanksgiving was the one many people felt trepidation over due to the political storm still stalled over the U.S. after the recent presidential race and election. In case you're reading this in the year 3062 and our country has just now managed to forget, a lot of Thanksgiving hosts and hostesses were nervous about the potential for fights at the table and the crescent-roll-turned-weaponry-style battles that might break out during dinner. 

I'd made it through three forkfuls of turkey before some rabble-rouser brought up the election. It turned out to be my own daughter. But one thing to be thankful for was how one swift kick to the ankle made her instantly a-political and un-opinionated. And I was one proud mother to think I still had that much influence over her behavior. 

Then one of the ladies at the table asked my son what grade he was in and when he said "Tenth," the lady exclaimed, "Oh, tenth grade was the best year of my life!" Someone else at the table quietly inquired, "Why - you got pregnant?"

Of course we all laughed and laughed. Actually, we really did. 

After dinner, my daughter let her baby cousins give her a makeover from which she emerged looking like a 1960s flower child and my son posed for pictures placid and dignified in his two-year-old cousin's tiny pink sunglasses.  

And I . . . I thought how thankful I was for everyone there and how delicious dinner had been - partly because everyone insisted I not cook.  

Let Us Be Batesful

Thanksgiving is this Thursday and I was just thinking - before the death of Norma Bates, she and her son, Norman must have spent some lonely holidays together. I think when Alfred Hitchcock directed Psycho, he should have included some flashbacks to show us what those holidays were like. But since it's too late for that, I'm stuck using my imagination. 

A Batesful Thanksgiving by

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I came up with one scenario for how Mrs. Bates could have met her end if her end had fallen on Thanksgiving. Actually, in this scenario, Thanksgiving is instrumental in bringing about her end. I offer it here in hopes that it will make your relatives look better to you this year. You can thank me later. 

Now, picture with me if you will . . .

. . . a Thanksgiving morning, and, as usual, the neon vacancy light burns with hope beside the Bates Motel. Switching that light on is a task Norman Bates has performed in a perfunctory way ever since the new highway went in, routing traffic away from the motel that he and his mother run. 

Behind the motel, high up on a hill is the house Norman shares with his mother. It is a dark, tumbledown Gothic monstrosity - or is it Victorian? Anyway, right now, the only light burning in the entire house is a dingy bulb attached to a cord that dangles from the ceiling. Norman and his mother are preparing their holiday dinner. Let's listen, shall we?

Norman (at the sink, smiling and rinsing blood from the turkey): Mother, do you think we might get any Thanksgiving travelers on their ways home tonight?

Mrs. Bates (standing at the counter next to Norman): No. And pass me those potatoes I had you bring up from the cellar. By the way, something smells off down there. What have you got stashed away?

Norman: Nothing, Mother. Really.

Mrs. Bates: Nothing mother really my foot! I asked you a question, young man, and I expect an answer!

Norman: Mother, it's just a few things I need for my new hobby. Really, the smell won't bother you at all once you get used to it. One day you won't even know I've been doing anything down there at all. 

Mrs. Bates: I highly doubt that. And just what is that smell anyway?

Norman: Pickling agents, Mother. 

Mrs. Bates: Pickling agents! Norman Bates, have you been sniffing my canning supplies again?

Norman: No, Mother. But soon you won't be needing your canning supplies, so please, let's just try to forget about it.

Mrs. Bates: What do you mean, I won't be needing my supplies?"

Norman: I simply meant, Mother, that canning seems to be to physically demanding for you lately. I think it's time you gave it up. We can afford to buy the kinds of things you used to can. 

Mrs. Bates: What do you mean "used to can?" Norman, just what kind of a ditwad are you? That canning saves us hundreds of dollars a year. With the motel not getting any business, that money comes in handy. Now, where are the onions I asked for?

Norman: Mother, you didn't ask me for any onions. 

Mrs. Bates: Well, suppose you just march your caboose down to the cellar and get some?

Norman: Yes, mother. 

Thinking what a pain in the caboose his mother's always been, Norman trudges down the cellar stairs, selects two onions, then trudges back up. Trudging is as close as Norman's ever gotten to showing his mother he's angry. He hands her the onions.

Mrs. Bates: And suppose you tell me what other of your hobby supplies I'm smelling down there? And where's the celery?

Norman: Mother, you didn't ask me for celery either.

Mrs. Bates: Oh, don't be ridiculous, Norman; of course I asked you for celery. Get down to that cellar and find some.

Now, instead of being a pain in his caboose, Norman's mother morphs in his head into being a caboose; a caboose attached to a long line of boxcars carrying highly explosive materials, jumping the tracks and plunging over a cliff to a fiery end. This time Norman stomps down to the cellar, snatches up five stalks of celery, punches them repeatedly, then stomps back upstairs. 

Mrs. Bates: You were just about to tell me; what else am I smelling down there?

Norman: Tanning chemicals, preservatives, relaxers. Oh, and some re-hydration products.

Mrs. Bates: What are you running down there, some kind of spa?

Norman (hoisting the turkey into a roasting pan): Well, let's just say, that I find it relaxing. 

Mrs. Bates: Norman, why didn't you bring up any rutabagas? 

Norman: Mother, you never said you wanted rutabagas.

Mrs. Bates: Norman, what do you take me for, a cook or a kook? I most certainly did tell you I wanted rutabagas. Now march! 

Going down for the third time, Norman storms off, accidentally striking his head on the dangling light bulb. It swings back and forth, back and forth. His mother's face is glaringly illuminated then darkly shadowed; back and forth and over and over. Seeing his mother like this makes Norman nervous. Once Norman has returned to the kitchen: 

Mrs. Bates: This hobby of yours - is it something I might enjoy?

Norman (slyly): Well, I'd be happy to expose you to it. 

Mrs. Bates: What about those preservatives? What are those for?

Norman (smiling at his mother): Mother, those preservatives could help keep you looking fresh and alive for a long, long time. 

Mrs. Bates: Hmm . . . After dinner I'd like you to show me what you've got going on down there. Maybe for once you've got yourself a hobby we can share.

Norman: Trust me, Mother. There's one thing I'd like to try with my hobby that I wouldn't want to do with anyone but you.

Mrs. Bates: Norman, I must say, that was rather sweet. 

Norman crosses the kitchen to return with a pan of steaming hot dressing. He begins spooning it into the bird's cavity.

Mrs. Bates (looking furious): Norman Bates! That is no way to stuff a turkey!

Norman (smiling again): Mother, there are all kinds of ways to stuff a turkey, and all kinds of turkeys to stuff. I'll show you what I mean after dinner . . . in the cellar.